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- Rachael Stirling published a memoir titled All About My Mother about her relationship with her late mother Diana Rigg, who died during the Covid lockdown and was cremated with no ceremony.
- Press coverage ran sensationalized headlines including 'Rachael Stirling eats mother Diana Rigg's ashes before going on stage' and 'strange habit only she really understands,' which Stirling likens to being portrayed as an 'ash-guzzling savage' and 'matricidal cannibal.'
- Diana Rigg's career spanned 60 years and included Emma Peel in The Avengers, Olenna Tyrell (the Queen of Thorns) in Game of Thrones, a Tony and an Emmy, a marriage to James Bond (George Lazenby), and Broadway's Medea.
- The first incident occurred during Stirling's play Scandaltown at the Lyric Hammersmith — when she accidentally spilled grains from the tube before her cue, she licked her finger and consumed them rather than let any fall on the floor.
- The ritual continues — Stirling now opens the tube at the five-minute call before every press night and eats whatever collects on her finger, likening it to weekly communion.
- Stirling's framing defends the practice as enabling her mother, who refused to retire, to keep performing: 'this was my way of enabling her to keep on trucking.'
Why it matters: Stirling's piece reframes a viral tabloid moment as an intimate, recurring grief ritual she has now performed on multiple opening nights. The book's release turns a sensationalized quote into a sustained argument about private mourning versus public spectacle, and about how the press handles female grief — with Stirling noting a widow at her opening night whispered, 'I do that, too.'
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